Are you sabotaging your success with your own self-limiting thought patterns? Are negative thoughts standing in the way of your efforts to live, learn, and grow?
Perhaps, you may not know this, but your personal beliefs about yourself and your life matter more than you realize. Those beliefs are the very foundation upon which you build your life.
As James Allen wrote in his eternally famous 1902 book, As A Man Thinketh, “A man is literally what he thinks, his character being the complete sum of all his thoughts.”
Your success or failure in life is determined, not by circumstances, but by your thought patterns. This is not always easy for many of us to swallow, but as Allen puts it: “Good thoughts bear good fruit, bad thoughts bad fruit.”
It therefore follows that if you want to stop sabotaging your success, you must learn to eliminate your self-limiting thought patterns. And establish positive and abundant thought patterns.
How do you recognize self-sabotaging thoughts?
Some common self-limiting thoughts are:
- “I’ll never be able to save any money for retirement.”
- “I guess I won’t ever fall in love again.”
- “Why can’t I find any trustworthy friends?”
- “I’ll be fat forever.”
- “I’m sure Pat will get that promotion over me.”
- “I wish I could take a vacation to Europe, but I know I could never afford it.”
- “How will I ever live the life I want earning what I earn now?”
If you identified some of your limiting thoughts while reading the above examples, take steps to break your cognitive ties to those thinking patterns.
Focus on these strategies to start thinking in a new direction:
- Stop labeling yourself. If you see yourself as “poor” financially, then you might unconsciously strive to match that label. Or if you consider yourself as “fat” you may be unable to imagine yourself otherwise. Always remember James Allen’s words of wisdom: you become what you think. So, if you thought of yourself as a “failure,” that will likely become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
- Be your own best friend. Love yourself enough to be your own best friend. Do this by giving yourself the benefit of the doubt. Think positive thoughts such as, “I can do this.” When you practice this, you’ll reject self-limiting thoughts.
- Believe in yourself. Instead of insisting you’ll “never” do something, say that you can, and then do it. If you turn those negatives into positives, it boosts your self-esteem. Trust that you can accomplish, succeed, and prevail. Even it might seem that you fall short, see the lessons in that experience; re-tool and try again.
- Keep Moving. When you continually move towards your goals, you’ll gain the momentum to keep on going. Rather than think you’re unable to achieve success, make a plan of achievable steps to ensure you do.
- For example, perhaps you’d like an African safari vacation. Instead of thinking you can never afford it, establish a small weekly savings goal, and stick to it. The Universe has a way of rewarding those who believe in themselves, and are diligent enough to take actions.
- Assess the truth. Ask yourself, “Is what I’m thinking really true?” For example, is it an absolute reality that you’ll never be able to save for retirement? It doesn’t have to be true, unless you strive for that.
- Is it really true that you will never be able to get a college diploma since you’re over 50 years of age? Or is it the case that you are not trying enough? I know a grand-mother who just graduated at the age of 72, with a degree in Psychology! So, what’s your excuse?
- Question your self-limiting thoughts. When you realize they’re unrealistic, untrue, and within your power to change, you’ll be able to break away.
- Learn from the past. Instead of using your past against you, think about the knowledge you’ve gained from each experience. Maybe you filed for bankruptcy a few years ago. That crisis does not mean you’ll never achieve financial abundance.
- Rather than getting bogged down with self-limiting thoughts, reflect on the shortcomings of your previous financial situation. What part did you play? If you proactively learn from your past mistakes, accept responsibility, but determined to move forward, you’ll make healthier choices in the future.
When you apply the above strategies to your life, you’ll see the possibilities that are all around you. Recognize how powerful your thoughts are. You can do anything you set your mind to. You create who you are by what you think about yourself. Why not turn that power into positive energy that drives you towards the things that you want in life?
Eliminate those self-limiting beliefs right now so you can start embracing the good life that’s yours for the taking.